It's not only okay to be gay... It can be great to be gay!

No matter where on earth you live, no matter your race, your religion, your gender, your age, it is always okay to be gay. In fact it is much more than okay to be gay, it's often great to be gay.

This web site is my gift to everyone on the planet. It was created on the 10th anniversary of my own coming out, and at the dawn of this new Millennium.

My goal is to share with gay and straight people everywhere that it is always always, always okay to be gay. "The Truth About Gay People" is a book in progress. Every now and then I'll post another chapter. The goal is to help move the world from false and harmful beliefs to the liberating freedom of truth.


Here's the book's introduction - enjoy!


The day I heard one of the most powerful politicians in the country equate Gay and Lesbian Americans, to kleptomaniacs and alcoholics, I knew it was time for a book like this. I asked myself how someone who is well educated, aware of current events and who makes decisions that effects the lives of millions of people could be so ignorant about gay people. Then I realized that he was not alone. That there are thousands if not millions of people in this world who carry around a set of out dated ill formed beliefs and who if given the chance could come to see the truth.


There is a yearning for the truth. I have found my straight friends and coworkers fascinated and hanging on my every word when I dare to share my truth about being gay. They ask questions out of ignorance that to many a gay person seem silly. But they are the questions so many Americans are afraid to ask.


This book answers all the questions, the silly and the serious. If you are trying to understand someone who is gay this book will help. If you just want to know the truth about gay people here it is. If you fear you are gay, odds are you are gay and there's plenty in this book to help you come to terms with who you've always been. If your son or daughter told you they were gay then handed you this book, welcome to the club. Know that you are not alone. No one book can change the course of history or make the world a perfect place, but the truth is a powerful thing. When we start speaking the truth about gay people magical things can happen and the history of hate and shame can begin to change.


Before you read any further give yourself a pat on the back for having read this far and for being willing to hear the truth. Thank you for opening your mind as you open this book.

- Rick Reynolds, CCHT

Thursday, January 11, 2007

Gay People Don't Mind Gay Jokes

"Did you here the one about the two dykes and their faggot friend? You're gay you'll love this one." NOT! Gay people like jokes. Gay people can laugh at themselves and can tell the funniest gay jokes in the world. But many gay people have grown up the brunt of jokes and harassment. For many each joke can feel more like a knife in the back than a feather on the stomach. In a friendly crowd the gay person might let out an uncomfortable laugh and quietly cry inside.

If a black person tells a joke about black people they're funny. When a white person tells the same joke they're a racist. This same unwritten rule is true of gay people and gay jokes. For far too long jokes have been used as a weapon: A way of intimidating gay and lesbian people, a way of letting any closeted gay person know that it's not safe to venture out of the closet. The jokes have for too long meant that gay people are unwelcome. Most jokes carry with them a huge dose of the lies our culture has come to believe about gay people.

Most gay jokes are told to closeted gay people. Straight people often have this habit of just assuming everyone is straight, and will say the most inappropriate jokes right to the face of a gay or lesbian person. Many gay jokes are told by closeted gay people. Saying something bad about gay people can be one way to look very straight. Often times it's the closeted gay person who is most apt to say the meanest and nastiest things about people who are gay. If you know someone who really over reacts to the very presence of gay people odds are they may be uncomfortable with their own sexual orientation and either fear they're gay or fear you'll find out.

There's nothing more healing than being able to laugh at the same jokes that once hurt you. But for too many gay people the wounds are too deep to laugh, especially when the jokes come from someone who claims not to be gay.

The true belief should you choose to accept it can be:

Just because gay people can laugh at themselves doesn't mean you can make fun of them.
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