It's not only okay to be gay... It can be great to be gay!

No matter where on earth you live, no matter your race, your religion, your gender, your age, it is always okay to be gay. In fact it is much more than okay to be gay, it's often great to be gay.

This web site is my gift to everyone on the planet. It was created on the 10th anniversary of my own coming out, and at the dawn of this new Millennium.

My goal is to share with gay and straight people everywhere that it is always always, always okay to be gay. "The Truth About Gay People" is a book in progress. Every now and then I'll post another chapter. The goal is to help move the world from false and harmful beliefs to the liberating freedom of truth.


Here's the book's introduction - enjoy!


The day I heard one of the most powerful politicians in the country equate Gay and Lesbian Americans, to kleptomaniacs and alcoholics, I knew it was time for a book like this. I asked myself how someone who is well educated, aware of current events and who makes decisions that effects the lives of millions of people could be so ignorant about gay people. Then I realized that he was not alone. That there are thousands if not millions of people in this world who carry around a set of out dated ill formed beliefs and who if given the chance could come to see the truth.


There is a yearning for the truth. I have found my straight friends and coworkers fascinated and hanging on my every word when I dare to share my truth about being gay. They ask questions out of ignorance that to many a gay person seem silly. But they are the questions so many Americans are afraid to ask.


This book answers all the questions, the silly and the serious. If you are trying to understand someone who is gay this book will help. If you just want to know the truth about gay people here it is. If you fear you are gay, odds are you are gay and there's plenty in this book to help you come to terms with who you've always been. If your son or daughter told you they were gay then handed you this book, welcome to the club. Know that you are not alone. No one book can change the course of history or make the world a perfect place, but the truth is a powerful thing. When we start speaking the truth about gay people magical things can happen and the history of hate and shame can begin to change.


Before you read any further give yourself a pat on the back for having read this far and for being willing to hear the truth. Thank you for opening your mind as you open this book.

- Rick Reynolds, CCHT

Thursday, January 11, 2007

All Gay People Are Promiscuous

"You know gay people, they're obsessed with sex, they can't stay in lasting relationships, and their whole lives revolve around one night stands and meaningless sexual encounters." There are more than a few straight and gay people who believe this to be the truth. And for some gay people this is true. It is also true for many straight people.

What is even more true of this belief is what it says about the people who believe it. It's important to remember other people's judgments always say more about them then they do about the people they are judging. What this belief says about those who believe it is that if they were gay, they would be sexually promiscuous.

It is this warped belief in gay promiscuity that leads some straight people to fear that no matter what they look like a gay person would find them attractive and want to engage in sex. This fear has forced openly gay people out of the armed forces, and inspired more than a few irrational hate crimes.

This same belief allows straight people to be amazingly disrespectful of long lasting gay relationships. It keeps gay and lesbian people from enjoying the right to marry, and from having complete legal recognition of their relationships.

The reality is and always has been that gay people find themselves free to live outside the traditional concepts of sex and relationship. For some that means promiscuity, sexual obsession even sexual addiction.
But for the majority this But relationships for gay people like for many straight people are about much more than sex. They are about love.

A gay relationship is much more than a homosexual relationship. Gay people are gay because they fall in love with the same gender. If they were just sexually attracted to the same gender they might gladly call themselves homosexuals. But there's more to being gay then sex. Many gay people find or wish they could find a rich and fulfilling partnership that resembles a straight marriage.

Some gay and straight people are promiscuous others are not.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

In all my years on this planet, with the exception of my soul-mate, I have never met a gay single male who wasn't promiscuous nor a gay male couple that didn't have an open relationship. The facts need to be faced: Gay men have been reared to be all about sex with no strings attached!!!

Rick Reynolds, CCHT said...

Thanks for your perspective. I would suggest you meet more gay people. In the meantime statistical research on gay relationships, and gay male sexual habits is lacking so I'm not sure either of us can make a factual claim.