It's not only okay to be gay... It can be great to be gay!

No matter where on earth you live, no matter your race, your religion, your gender, your age, it is always okay to be gay. In fact it is much more than okay to be gay, it's often great to be gay.

This web site is my gift to everyone on the planet. It was created on the 10th anniversary of my own coming out, and at the dawn of this new Millennium.

My goal is to share with gay and straight people everywhere that it is always always, always okay to be gay. "The Truth About Gay People" is a book in progress. Every now and then I'll post another chapter. The goal is to help move the world from false and harmful beliefs to the liberating freedom of truth.


Here's the book's introduction - enjoy!


The day I heard one of the most powerful politicians in the country equate Gay and Lesbian Americans, to kleptomaniacs and alcoholics, I knew it was time for a book like this. I asked myself how someone who is well educated, aware of current events and who makes decisions that effects the lives of millions of people could be so ignorant about gay people. Then I realized that he was not alone. That there are thousands if not millions of people in this world who carry around a set of out dated ill formed beliefs and who if given the chance could come to see the truth.


There is a yearning for the truth. I have found my straight friends and coworkers fascinated and hanging on my every word when I dare to share my truth about being gay. They ask questions out of ignorance that to many a gay person seem silly. But they are the questions so many Americans are afraid to ask.


This book answers all the questions, the silly and the serious. If you are trying to understand someone who is gay this book will help. If you just want to know the truth about gay people here it is. If you fear you are gay, odds are you are gay and there's plenty in this book to help you come to terms with who you've always been. If your son or daughter told you they were gay then handed you this book, welcome to the club. Know that you are not alone. No one book can change the course of history or make the world a perfect place, but the truth is a powerful thing. When we start speaking the truth about gay people magical things can happen and the history of hate and shame can begin to change.


Before you read any further give yourself a pat on the back for having read this far and for being willing to hear the truth. Thank you for opening your mind as you open this book.

- Rick Reynolds, CCHT

Thursday, January 11, 2007

All Lesbians Are Masculine

"Why do all lesbians look like boys?" The same person that asks this question thinks all gay men act like girls. It's part of the great gay myth, that to be gay is to appear and act like the opposite gender. It's all a myth. There are gay and straight women who look like men and act like men, and there are straight and gay women who look like women and act like women. You can't tell if someone is gay, by the way they walk, talk or wear their hair. Believing that a masculine woman is gay or that a feminine woman is straight is buying into a stereotype.

All people are a combination of male and female. Some lesbians feel more comfortable and more like their true selves expressing their masculinity. Some straight women may also find the same comfort in expressing their masculinity. Your sex organs determine your gender. How you express your femaleness or maleness does not make you more of a woman or less of a man.

When a woman gives up the belief that she exists as a sex object for a man, she is free to determine her own rules about what is attractive and what form her femininity or masculinity will take. Gay women because they don't have a desire to attract straight men can choose if they want to abandon the cultural dictates about feminine appearance. They don't have to buy into the male dominated Madison Avenue dictates that have many women loathing their natural rounded and full feminine bodies fearing they are over weight. These are the same dictates that force many women into high heals, padded bras, tight revealing clothes and a thick layer of make up to conceal their natural imperfections.

Lesbians are free to be their natural selves and express their inner beauty however they see fit. There are as many different ways of balancing the male and female in gay women, as there are gay women.

If you choose you can now give up the notion that all gay women are masculine and choose instead to believe this truth:

All people are masculine and feminine.

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