To be human is to be interested in sex. If we were not interested in sex we could not procreate and our species would end with this generation. You are a sexual being, if you are a man or a woman you have a natural curiosity and interest in sex. If you are straight you will have a natural curiosity and interest in the opposite sex and expressions of straight sexuality. If you are gay you will have a natural curiosity and interest in the same gender and in gay sex.
The teenage boy who is obsessed with women's bodies and his own blossoming sexuality is not only a healthy normal part of our society but a popular icon in our culture. There are all sorts of popular movies and books and television shows that condone even the most outrageous sexual exploits of young straight men. As a society for better and worse we tend to say, "boys will be boys."
But "gay boys will also be gay boys". The hormone raging teenage gay boy is just as interested in men's bodies as his straight counterpart is in women's. Just as the young straight man can be outrageous and inappropriate with his new found sexuality, so can young gay men. The difference is in how society reacts. The straight boy is welcomed to the world of men. The gay boy is shamed, told he's perverted and if not careful will find himself the victim of a hate crime, arrested for lewd conduct or exploited by a pedophile.
When it comes to female sexuality, our culture ignores its very existence. If a woman is naked in a movie it is rated R. If you see a naked and aroused man in a movie it's rated X. A straight women who dares to be openly sexual will often find herself treated no better than a gay men. The only way in which gay women are accepted by some straight men is as erotic fantasies put on for the straight man's sexual pleasure.
For the most part gay women could care less about arousing men. When they define themselves as Lesbian they are saying, "I'm interested in sex and interested in sex with women." In our straight male dominated society that can be two strikes against them. In our society the only ones allowed to be openly sexual and whose sexuality we celebrate are straight men. Everyone else, who is interested in sex, is labeled obsessed with sex.
There is more to life than sex. If sex dominates your life, you may be obsessed with it. But if you are curious, interested and sexually relaxed you are normal.
The new belief should you choose to accept it is:
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