tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8763182571648376784.post7275905376848241700..comments2013-10-08T16:25:10.773-07:00Comments on Okay To Be Gay: Gay Men Hate Women - Gay Women Hate MenRick Reynolds, CCHThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13281488441852366953noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8763182571648376784.post-38489553739103140552012-01-14T22:01:38.123-08:002012-01-14T22:01:38.123-08:00There are as many different types of gay people as...There are as many different types of gay people as there are straight people. The behavior of your friend is likely not because he is or isn't gay. Not knowing him I can't begin to guess what is happening within him to be acting out in this way. I do wonder if society were more accepting of same se relationships if he would still behave in this way. I just know that the idea that all gay people hate the opposite gender is just not true and that some gay people buy into these stereotypes and if they themselves believe it then it becomes their truth but there's nothing about same sex attraction that cause anyone to dislike or hate anyone else. It's as silly as saying straight men hate men because they are not sexually attracted to them.Rick Reynolds, CCHThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13281488441852366953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8763182571648376784.post-78530606869607339852012-01-14T21:52:06.061-08:002012-01-14T21:52:06.061-08:00I am very close to a gay man leading a double life...I am very close to a gay man leading a double life. He has more than one "part-time" girlfriend- he has three. All the women are close to people he is close to and he has a few steady boyfriends and numerous casual liasions. He sees women in a very negative way, including the ones he is with. He refers to them as bitches. He thinks all women are jealous and "catty" yet he fools everyone and seems to dislike women. He introduced one of his long-time steady boyfriends to one of his best-friend's close female relative. His gay lover is married to this woman now. Can you share some insight on why a gay man would do this. There are tons of suspicions by many that he is gay. So he says that these women that he is fooling and using to hide who he is should know that he is gay.ANONYMOUShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16573390248441883351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8763182571648376784.post-6180367865009292242011-12-29T15:04:58.501-08:002011-12-29T15:04:58.501-08:00Friendships just happen, sexuality shouldn't b...Friendships just happen, sexuality shouldn't be such an issue. I am a woman presently in a straight (mostly conservative) relationship and have many gay friends because most of the people I work with happen to be gay. I've also met gay people I didn't like. Friendship is about individuality and circumstance, just like most things in this world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8763182571648376784.post-74201719726508923002011-02-23T10:28:29.973-08:002011-02-23T10:28:29.973-08:00I've been disheartened many a time in the gay ...I've been disheartened many a time in the gay and lesbian community to encounter hatred towards others. I've met to many gay racists and no doubt there are gay men who dislike or even hate women and lesbians who equally dislike or even hate gay men. <br /><br />I have never fully understood how it is that a class of people who have faced such hatred and discrimination can turn around and inflict the same pain on others but it seems to be one of the ways human beings cope with oppression.<br /><br />History is full of examples and it doesn't make it right and doesn't mean that we can not strive to evolve beyond this. <br /><br />There are very conscious gay and lesbian people who in experiencing the hatred of others could and would never inflict it on another or one another. <br /><br />Those are the people I attract into my life. I love the recent reality show "Women who like boys, who like boys". They did a wonderful job of showing some interesting and powerful friendships between gay men and straight women. Such relationships are not confined to this dynamic but do exist within it and it was wonderful to celebrate them with a show.Rick Reynolds, CCHThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13281488441852366953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8763182571648376784.post-23938830863196947212011-01-26T14:57:39.692-08:002011-01-26T14:57:39.692-08:00It is wrong to generalize, but it is equally inacc...It is wrong to generalize, but it is equally inaccurate to state that there is not a problem with SOME gay men disliking women as friends. A sample of some posts from a gay website describing a "fag hag" that disliked her friend's BF:<br /><br /> <i>Nine times out of 10, fag hag is just another term for a woman with poor boundaries and a borderline personality disorder who thinks she can change the sexual orientation of the guy she's currently stalking.<br /><br />and:<br /><br />To the OP:<br /><br />Inscribe these wise words on the inside of your eyelids so that you read them every time you blink.<br /><br /><br />and:<br /><br />Some women irrationally "lay claim" to their gay male friends, often as substitutes for boyfriends that they lack themselves, and it can be hugely co-dependent, desperate and pathetic. They don't give up without a fight.<br /><br />and:<br /><br />"Fag hag's" are tricky. They make sense in High School maybe, but people who have them in adult life often have them for the wrong reasons. The fag hag is often a girl who can't get attention from straight guys, and attaches herself to a gay guy to make up for it. Naturally, she will get extremely jealous when someone else (you) comes into the picture, and coupled with her own anger about her own loneliness, she will go at anything to end the relationship.<br /><br />and:<br /><br />Yes, it is incredibly important (and healthy) that you and your boyfriend have friendships outside of your relationship, but in my observation "fag hag" friendships can be such that there is no room for anyone else. Most of the ones I've seen have been dysfunctionally co-dependent, to the detriment of any relationship prospects for either the guy or his "hag".<br /><br />and:<br /><br />Simple...Do not date dudes that got fag hags. Gay dudes with a plethora of fag hags usually means something. :/ <br /><br />and:<br /><br />Yea, no thank you to dating guys with fruit flies. </i><br /><br />No one knows what the poster's relationship with this woman was like, but in terms of the responses, it was upsetting to read the generalizations offered by men who should know better than to be hateful and derogatory toward people. Just an observation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com